real man

......aku baru lepas tengok rancangan temubual DUKE di channel AXN Astro...rancangan ini adalah tentang lelaki...temubual yang membicarakan semuanya tentang lelaki...aku tertarik dengan permulaan perbincangan yang menyatakan sifat paling asas yang harus ada untuk mentakrifkan lelaki sejati atau real man ini ialah seorang lelaki itu perlu ada sifat 3P..Pencari Nafkah, Pelindung dan Pecinta..Pencari nafkah sifat yg paling asas iaitu mencari nafkah untuk memberi keluarganya makan,minum dan tempat tinggal....Pelindung pula ialah sifat wajib yg perlu ada iaitu seorang lelaki itu akan melindungi keluarganya dari sebarang ancaman...seterusnya ialah sifat Pecinta,sifat ini perlu untuk memenuhi kehendak asas manusia selain untuk meneruskan kesinambungan kejadian manusia itu......inilah sifat yang aku rasa akan mentakrifkan sifat lelaki sejati itu sejak zaman paleolitik hingga kezaman serba moden hari ini...
...............dalam rancangan itu juga..mereka menemubual orang ramai secara rawak tentang takrif lelaki sejati ini....ada yang menyatakan lelaki sejati ialah lelaki yang botak..ada yg kata lelaki sejati ialah lelaki yg tak pakai pelembab muka..ada yg kata lelaki sejati ialah lelaki yg berani memakai baju pink dan ada juga yang kata lelaki sejati ini kena ada bulu didada..hmmm...macam-macam lah...tetapi takrifan lelaki sejati itu sendiri subjektif dan terletak pada pahaman masing2....
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hmmm...bagi aku pula...A real man is one who shows respect to his Mother and Father(termasuklah mak dan ayah mertua). A real man treats his friends and family and strangers on the street with the same respect as well. A real man loves his children and wife and stays through the thick and the thin. A man that will never lift his hand to a woman's face(aku pantang dengan lelaki dayus yg pukul wanita ni). Who will treat her like a lady with dignity and respect always. Who shows her how much he truly cares and loves her by telling her and surprising her with flowers or love letter at work or home. Cooking dinner(sorry sayang if my masakan tak sodap..hehe) and telling her to just put your feet up honey and let me handle the dishes and putting the kids to bed(insyAllah dah ada anak nanti..bie buat ek.). A real man takes time to teach and show his kids the proper way to go about disputes and teaches them values in life. A real man teaches his children how to respect others and to be kind by example. And when in the presence of his wife, he shows them tenderness and compassion while holding her close. A real man will see someone in distress and offer to help. Real men seek and praise God with their wives and family. Real men do the best they can, they don't cheat, steal or lie to get their way. They are humble, honest and their heart's are soft with love and compassion. Real men can be gentle as a lamb with their wife, children, family and friends. And can be fierce as a lion with offenders. We are both protectors and lovers.......
..........i love you wifey....i just want to be your perfect husband sayang...
every time..every moment..i squeeze my brain work very hard..to give my very best to you sayang..and i promise you that i will love you forever....